Take Your Time in Finding the Love You Deserve

To write his books, Pillemer discussed with more than 700 long-married people about relationships, love and marriage and reached the following conclusion: Take your time when it comes to love and finding the right partner. First and foremost, love yourself before you start a relationship with someone else. Follow your heart but take your brain with you. Lillie, aged 78, told him that “the biggest mistake is being too quick to enter a marriage. Get to know that person very, very well in all circumstances, the happiness part and the stressful parts. So both people have to be very willing and very open, and often times make concessions, as they get to know each other. So please, take a very serious look. You cannot mold your spouse into something that you want.”